The wording on your wedding invitation does more than share the date and time — it tells guests everything about the tone of your celebration before they arrive. Formal wording signals a black-tie affair; casual wording says come-as-you-are. Getting the etiquette right ensures nobody is confused or accidentally offended.
Who Hosts? The Wording Rule That Changes Everything
Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the wedding, and the invitation reflects that: “Mr. and Mrs. [Bride’s Parents] request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter…” But modern weddings have many hosting arrangements, and the wording adapts to each one.
If both sets of parents host together, both are named. If the couple hosts themselves, the invitation opens with the couple’s names directly. If it’s a collaborative effort, “Together with their families” is the elegant solution that credits everyone without listing names.
Formal vs. Casual Wording
Formal / Traditional
Uses third person, proper titles, “request the honour of your presence” (note the British spelling with a “u” for church ceremonies), spelled-out dates and times, and full venue names with addresses. This style suits church ceremonies, ballroom receptions, and black-tie events.
Casual / Modern
Uses first person, first names, conversational language, and a relaxed tone. “We can’t wait to celebrate with you” replaces “request the honour.” This style matches garden parties, destination weddings, and couples who want guests to feel relaxed.
RSVP Wording
Include a clear RSVP deadline at least 3-4 weeks before the wedding. “Kindly respond by [date]” is formal; “RSVP by [date]” works for everything else. Include the method — a reply card, email, or wedding website URL.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Don’t abbreviate. Spell out dates, times, and street names on formal invitations. Don’t list the registry. Registry information goes on the wedding website, not the invitation. Don’t assume plus-ones. If guests can bring a date, the invitation should say “and Guest” explicitly.
Need help getting the wording right? Our free Invitation Wording Generator creates 5 complete options tailored to your style, venue, and hosting arrangement. Pair your invitations with a wedding hashtag printed on the RSVP card.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I use “honour” or “honor”?
Traditionally, “honour” (British spelling) is used for religious ceremonies, “honor” for secular. Modern invitations increasingly use whichever the couple prefers.
Do I need to include parents’ names?
Only if they’re hosting or co-hosting. Self-hosted weddings can open directly with the couple’s names.